“This is a book that did something to me while I was reading it. Rodney King has written more than a comforting meditation on slowing down; he has given us a philosophical argument with teeth and allowed that argument to become flesh through the life he has actually lived. Being Human changed how I sat with my own clients. That is no small thing for a book to do to a practitioner twelve years into this work. Rodney has given us a usable philosophical instrument, not merely a good read.”
- DR. JONATHAN ERIC CARROLL,
PASTORAL COUNSELOR, PSYCHOTHERAPIST & PHILOSOPHICAL PRACTITIONER
WHO THIS BOOK IS FOR
If you are tired of being told you need to become more before you are allowed to be, this book is for you.
If you have ever felt that the modern world asks something of you that no honest life can deliver, this book is for you.
If you have ever lain awake at night with that low hum in your chest, not despair exactly, but something harder to name, this book is for you.
FROM THE PREFACE
WHAT THE BOOK SAYS
A diagnosis, a turn, and a way home.
The Diagnosis
How a whole civilisation came to believe that existence must be earned. The fee for existing, the machinery of almost, the managed self, the machine standard: the book names, one by one, the mechanisms that keep a person forever adjacent to their own life — and shows why the problem was never you.
The Turn
What the cracks are actually for. Through kintsugi, grief, and a body that finally told the truth, the book argues that imperfection is not what stands in the way of a good human life but one of its conditions. What has been broken and mended carries a wisdom the unbroken cannot possess.
The Homecoming
Humaning as a daily practice. Walking, rest that owes nothing, guarding the threshold, the quiet withdrawal of consent — small refusals that add up to a life lived from enoughness rather than toward permission. Come home as you are.
THE LANGUAGE OF THE BOOK
Six words for a feeling you already know.
The Fee for Existing
The invisible bill modern life hands you at birth: the conviction that being here must be earned.
The Machine Standard
Being measured against something inhuman — and told the shortfall is a character flaw.
The Machinery of Almost
The design that keeps you moving without ever letting you arrive.
Humaning
The verb form of being human: inhabiting your existence instead of running it as a project.
The Managed Self
Life as permanent self-administration; self-surveillance mistaken for self-awareness.
Enoughness
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LINES FROM THE BOOK
“We call ourselves human beings, but it is the being that has been hollowed out.”
“You never quite arrive because you were never meant to. Arrival would end the transaction.”
Chapter 1 — The Fee for Existing
“A trap seen clearly is already half escaped.”
Chapter 1 — The Fee for Existing
“What has been broken and mended carries a kind of wisdom that what has never been broken cannot possess.”
Chapter 6 — Kintsugi
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Rodney King
Rodney King is a philosopher, coach, and martial artist. Founder of Coaching Philosophia, he has spent his life teaching people to face pressure without abandoning themselves — first on the mats as a martial arts coach, and now through his work as a philosophy-inspired coach.
He holds a doctorate in Mindful-Embodied Leadership and is completing a second PhD in Applied Philosophy at Rhodes University, where his research explores philosophical practice and the modern meaning crisis. He grew up in Johannesburg and now lives on the Isle of Man, where this book was walked into existence.
BEFORE YOU BUY
Read the opening chapter.
The book begins where you probably are right now: lying awake in the dark, phone in hand, having forgotten for the hundredth time that week that you are allowed to stop.
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